Psychotherapy Isn't What You Think
by James Bugental, PhD

心理咨询不是你所想像的那样，它不是一种治疗疾病的手段，不是一位睿智的咨询师的指导，不是好友间的相互交流，不是学习一种深奥的学问，不是指出你人生道路上的错误，不是寻找一种新的宗教。心理咨询不是你所想像的那样。
Psychotherapy isn't what you think. It isn't a healing of an illness. It isn't guidance from a wise counselor. It isn't the mutual sharing of good friends. It isn't learning esoteric knowledge. It isn't being shown the error of one's ways. It isn't finding a new religion. Psychotherapy isn't what you think.

心理咨询不是你所想像的那样，它将使很多人惊奇因为这不是主要关于你的童年……或是什么伤害了了你（创伤性事件）……或是关于你身体的病菌……或是你习得的那些破坏性的习惯……或是你的那些消极态度……
Psychotherapy is not what you think. It surprises many people because it is not primarily about your childhood . . . or about what has hurt or traumatized you . . . or about the germs in your body . . . or about destructive habits you've acquired . . . or about negative attitudes you carry . . . .

心理咨询不是你所想像的那样，它是关于你是怎么想的，他唤起你对自己思想中那些自己不曾承认的假想的注意，它将你想的和你是如何想的区分开来，它更多的是关注你赋予你所作的事情怎样的意义、而不是寻找能够解释你的行为的原因。
Psychotherapy is not what you think. It is about how you think. It calls attention to unrecognized assumptions in how you think. It makes a distinction between what you think about and how you do that thinking. It is less concerned with looking for causes to explain what you do and more concerned with discovering patterns in the meanings you make of what you're doing.

心理咨询不是你所想像的那样，，它是关于你如何与自己的情绪共处（忍受自己的情绪），关于（你人生中）那些重要人物是如何与你联系起来的，它是关于你如何确立你人生的志向、你是如何无意间把这段通向目标之路变得艰险。它帮助你去认识那些你所追寻的变化已经在你心中潜伏，他使你认识并欣赏那些具有永恒意义的火花才是你的核心力量。
Psychotherapy is about how you think. It is about how you live with your emotions. It is about the perspectives you bring to relating with the people who matter to you. It is about what you aspire to in your life and how you may unwittingly make it harder for yourself to reach those goals. It is about being helped to see that the change you seek is already latent within you. It is coming to recognize and appreciate the spark of something eternal that is your core.

心理咨询不是你所想像的那样，它教会你如何（更好的）与现在的自己共处。
Psychotherapy is not what you think; it is about how you live with yourself right now.

Frankly speaking, they are all expats.
both foreigners and the immigrant workers...(I mean the workers came from the Countryside)
THEY ARE THE SAME.
living in a strange city is tough for them.
but obviously the situation these two kinda ppls facing are totally different.

so many one-night-stand stories occured in bars between a foreign guy with a locale gal.
it's too typical to be noticed these days.
all these gals, even working as a white-collar or sth.
they all wanna f*cked by the white or the black for free.
and... after one hot night...when they came back into the normal life, they all turned to be stone-

faced to the male from their own race.

so what happened to the immigrant workers here?
they can get some whores by money if they had enough...
but even if they're girlie, they don't like to be f*cked by those smelly guys.

it's so-called sin city.
gals in shanghai feel proud to be f*cked by expats(foreign)
feel nothing to be f*cked by yellow
feel agony to be f*cked by expats(countryside)

sorry for my E writting
i'm just practising

i've just logged on a expats in shanghai kinda forum, the expats were talking about stuff in shanghai,

how they fcuk yellow women, how they look down on yellow men

but u can't blame on them

the truth is we split , we made ourselves disgusting. we've learning english for a decade and even longer...we did everything to kiss their asses while we did everything to look down upon our own brothers/sisters...it really sucks

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